What do you believe when some one tells you that you are beautiful?
I know people say it to you and I know the people who say it to you are trustworthy and yet why don't you believe them, why?
I know I don't believe them.
People who would never ever lie to me have said that I am beautiful and I think that they are just being nice to me.
Some of you are aware that I have another existence.
My other persona receives many compliments and it has been said that I am what every man desires.
I have even received personal letters saying as much and though I am flattered I just don't believe it's true.
I mean really, how can it be true considering the way my life has been?
Yet if and when some troll calls me a whore or tells me that I am a bad mother I believe that in an instant.
Why are we* so willing to believe bad things about ourselves and deny any compliments?
* WE meaning women. I can not speak for men having never been a man.
10 comments:
It's a case of low self-esteem.
You don't believe it when you are told that you are beautiful because on some level you don't believe your are beautiful.
You believe it when you're told bad things aboout you because on some level you believe you are bad.
The trick is to stop believing the bad things about yourself, and start believing the good ones.
You can change the way you think about yourself.
It's simple. It's not easy, but it's simple.
You can do this.
Yeharr
Good post, I'm interested to see where this goes and I might steal it from you in the future if it's ok
Pirate I agree that it is a case of self esteem but I also have to say that women are taught that to believe you are beautiful is to be conceited and then you risk being called a tuck up bitch.
I agree with Balloon Pirate...poor self esteem. For example, I know a girl who was told about her physical flaws all thru out her childhood by her mentally unstable, abusive step-mother.
Others told her she was pretty, attractive but she, due the constant belittling of the over bearing scary step mother who had such an impact on her life, she could not believe the compliments and so from that negativity she grew up feeling poorly about herself and still to this day--she has relapses even after all the hard work to overcome the insults. Poor self esteem is not easily fixed or undone. Sometimes it is easier to believe the negativity or the insults if at one time they were such a part of your life. Sometimes we don't want the "big head" if we actually believe we are beautiful, or attractive. Maybe we are just too humble.
(oh yeah...that girl was me)
Thank you Blessed.
It is true that self esteem is a major part of not believing people when they tell me I am beautiful.
I also would like to say that I would have to take an amazing amount of shit (excuse my language) from the people around me if I were to not only believe I was beautiful but if I were to start acting as if I were beautiful.
A lady is alway modest.
A lady also doesn't curse!
I would like to know how many women who are reading this believe that they are PHYSICALLY beautiful EVERYTIME a person tells them.
um
i'm told constantly that i'm 'every man's dream' but no one ever asks me out.
we don't believe people when they tell us we're beautiful... for me it's because i never get any feedback from anyone who isn't my friend already that says so.
and my friends are biased because they think my soul is beautiful...
so i don't believe them aobut my looks.
how can i be what every man wants if none of them want me?
I don't
how can i be what every man wants if none of them want me?
I feel the same way, Sassinak the same exact way.
KJ tell me, is it just a matter of self esteem for you?
I could have written this as well.
I think part of it is low self-esteem.
And I think that you'll never believe it when other people say you're beautiful if you don't believe it yourself.
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