WOW!
What a wonderful response to yesterday's post.
I would love to have you all in the audience, it would be an honor.
And I would love to perform in the D.C area but I would have to be cast in a show there ;)
I have spoken to my family about their lack of support.
They do not seem to see their non attendance as a lack of support.
To them, a lack of support would mean discouragement and while they do not discourage me they do not exactly encourage me either.
Why?
Well, I know that I promised to try to not be so cynical but I am sure that did not include my family.
My family does not actively attend my performance because attending my performances does not do anything for them.
When my family supports one of my nieces or nephews by attending one of their sporting events
my family is able to prove to the other people attending, friends, neighbors and the like, that my family is wonderful by supporting the little or in some cases not so little tykes.
This is demonstrated by my sister attending the local High School and elementary school plays.
She goes because her neighbors and friends go to see their children and it becomes more of a social event then a theater event.
When my family comes to see me in a show the audience is comprised of an entirely different circle of people, people that my family really does not care to impress.
It is all about appearances.
I also feel that deep down my family feels, "enough is enough!" this is expressed by the phrase, "another show?"
Yes, another show!
I could probably do Guys and Dolls over and over again but then the complaint would be, "Guys and Dolls again?"
I think it is pretty neat that I have performed in over 100 plays and have only done one show more than once!
As I have said, while they do not encourage me they do not exactly discourage me either.
At the very least I can say that theater is mine alone and I do not have family members competing to see who is the best Ophelia or Blanche DuBois!
7 comments:
Oh, you mean like a real show . . . you couldn't just bring the pole over to my house . . . damn.
XO
First, I would love to play Stanley to your Blanche. Hamlet to your Ophelia. Hell, I'd love to play Rosencrantz to your Guildenstern, for that matter.
And in case you needed clarification about my question: I didn't mean to talk to them about their lack of support.
I meant tell them how it makes you feel.
My mad-libs discussion starter in situations like this is as follows:
"I feel __________ when you __________, because ______________."
It works in just about every situation. And it's completely non-aggressive. You're not telling them they're wrong for doing something, you're not asking them to explain why they did something, you're not even asking them to stop whatever it is that they're doing--only telling them how that action makes you feel.
And yes, if I was in the neighborhood, I'd buy a ticket.
Would you play Rita to my Peter?
yeharr
I SAW GUYS AND DOLLS AT MY HUSBANDS COLLEGE REUNION FOR THE FIRST TIME ABOUT 8 YEARS AGO. I FELL IN LOVE.
PICTURING YOU IN IT JUST MAKES IT BETTER!
"When I do not have any family memebers in the audience I feel sad."
Responses
"You'll get over it."
"You're an actress pretend someone else is your family"
"You do so many shows what differance does missing some make?"
Swear!
Try: "When you don't show up to my performances I feel sad."
Don't make it 'family members,' because then each family member will think it's someone else's problem. And you can be singular or plural, so it would work in any setting.
Response:
"When you say things like this I feel unloved, becasue it seems like you don't care about my feelings."
Gotta love the mad-libs.
yeharr
And remember, you're not telling them to do anything. You're simply telling them how you feel.
What they do with the information is up to them.
yeharr
Break a leg tonight, darlin!
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